Signs that you're overthinking... overthinking...
afraid to speak up
constantly thinking you are disappointing others in some way
doing things to “keep others happy”, that you later regret, or worse still you blame or criticise them for "making you do it".
scared to take a risk, in case you make a mistake
avoiding people, not enjoying life because you worry that others may not like or accept you for who you are
unable to make decisions, instead waiting for someone to tell you what to do.
It’s easy to get caught up in an overactive mind. In our everyday lives, this translates into stress, tension, anxiety and laziness. At it’s worst, it will completely shut you down and manifests into panic attacks.
When we overthink, it stops us from moving forward and making progress.
How can I stop this cycle of overthinking, and negativity?
Focus on results: what you can control, in terms of outcomes
Mindfulness : meditation will reduce your cortisol levels and return your body into a parasympathetic state. As you meditate, ask yourself how you can resolve the problem you have.
Breathe calmly (Pranayma) : as you take deep breaths in and out through your nose, you will start to notice how different you think and feel.
Understand why you care : write out your thoughts…
Get some exercise: go outside for a walk or get to the gym for a class… Notice how much more clarity you have, after releasing all that mental tension when you finish.
Clear negative emotions: connect with a qualified Master NLP Practitioner and get to the root cause and clear up those beliefs and emotions no longer serving you .
People think about themselves
Take a moment to reflect on your own experience. Do your thoughts concern your own worries, your own insecurities, your own experience of what is happening?
Knowing that this is the same for others, it becomes easier to stop worrying about what other people think.
It not selfish to love yourself, above all others
When we accept all the different parts of ourselves, quirks and all and we integrate the emotions and beliefs we have that limit us to accept ourselves fully, we create the space within to love and accept others.
Often we don’t love ourselves enough until we are “perfect”. Perfect body, perfect life, perfect partner and perfect family.
When we put these conditions on our love for ourselves, we stop seeing the possibilities, we close ourselves off and don’t appreciate how far we have already come, what we have already achieved.
In the same way we can choose to feel anger, hurt or sadness, we can choose to feel love and be grateful for what we already have.
“If you don’t love yourself, how the hell you gonna love somebody else?” Ru Paul
What will it take?
It will take commitment. It will take dedication. It will take focus. It will take discipline.
Will it be worth it?
What will creating self-worth, self-respect, self-confidence, self-love mean to you?
Only you can answer that.
If you're ready to stop feeling stuck, create the shifts, break the habits, take the actions, notice your words, and transform your thoughts, know that you can start (NOW).